Stop Blaming and Shaming Victims
It’s time to stop shaming and blaming domestic abuse victims.

These are things that have been spoken over women that I know and love...

“It takes two.”

“There are two sides to every story.”

“I don’t believe you.”

“You should pray more.”

“You should submit more.”

“If you gave him sex more, he wouldn’t have to find it elsewhere.”

“If you took better care of yourself, he wouldn’t cheat on you.”

“We love you both, so we won’t take sides.”

“You’re so bitter.”

“You’re unforgiving.”

“What did you do to make him hurt you?”

No. No. No.

Abusers choose to abuse.

Cheaters choose to cheat.

Period.

They have private and public personalities.

They can be kind when it suits them.

STOP BLAMING THE VICTIM AND START HOLDING THE ABUSER TO ACCOUNT.

KNOW BETTER. DO BETTER.

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My Story

 
Held & Healed.

I have always had a sense of Jesus' presence in my life and have felt held by Him.

Healed is what I will be when I meet Him face to face. 

The here and the now is the "&," as I am learning, healing, and growing every day.

I am a survivor of abuse of every kind, in childhood and adulthood.

In 2015, I was stricken with a mysterious and terrifying virus that "woke up" many other viruses in my body.

Since that time, I have been fiercely fighting for my healing and the healing of others.

I was also diagnosed with c-PTSD, as a result of lifelong trauma and abuse.

As I began to search for healing resources for myself, I knew that this journey wasn't just about me.

I created a group, Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse, which has grown to almost 4,000 members.

I launched the Held & Healed podcast which is a resource of resources. 

If you are a Christian woman who is rebuilding your life after abuse, I invite you to join me on this healing journey. 

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