Betrayal

Dear Friend, His Abuse, Adultery and Addictions Are Not Your Fault

Dear Friend, His Abuse, Adultery and Addictions Are Not Your Fault

Dear Friend,
 
His abuse, adultery and addictions are not your fault.
 
You are processing a level of betrayal that no human being should ever have to process.
 
While you were carrying his baby, he was at work having an affair with a co-worker
 
While you were in the hospital, just hours after giving birth, he was at a hotel hooking up with the “flavor of the month.”
 
While you were stretching fifty dollars a week for the family groceries, he was out wining and dining friends and creating thousands of dollars of debt you knew nothing about.
 
While you were praying, submitting, and being sexually available to keep him from straying, he was straying.
 
While you were alone and weeping, he was making people laugh with inappropriate humor, always the life of the party.
 
While you were encouraging and edifying him every chance you got, he berated you and stripped you down to a worthless pile on the floor.
 
While you were crying out for mercy, he mocked your pain.
 
NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT.

He cheats because he is a cheater.
 
He lies because he is a liar.
 
He abuses because he is an abuser.
 
NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT.
 
YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED, HONORED, CHERISHED AND SAFE.
 
Sweet friend, if any of this describes your reality, I want you to know that you are not alone.
 
We have a community of women who truly get it.
 
Join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse.
 
We are growing and healing together.



My Story

 
Held & Healed.

I have always had a sense of Jesus' presence in my life and have felt held by Him.

Healed is what I will be when I meet Him face to face. 

The here and the now is the "&," as I am learning, healing, and growing every day.

I am a survivor of abuse of every kind, in childhood and adulthood.

In 2015, I was stricken with a mysterious and terrifying virus that "woke up" many other viruses in my body.

Since that time, I have been fiercely fighting for my healing and the healing of others.

I was also diagnosed with c-PTSD, as a result of lifelong trauma and abuse.

As I began to search for healing resources for myself, I knew that this journey wasn't just about me.

I created a group, Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse, which has grown to almost 4,000 members.

I launched the Held & Healed podcast which is a resource of resources. 

If you are a Christian woman who is rebuilding your life after abuse, I invite you to join me on this healing journey. 

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