Dear Friend, If He Hurts You, He Hurts Your Kids

All it took was a meme.
 
A simple combination of words.
 
And, here I am, weeping.

Again.
 
“Domestic violence impacts the entire family. Children who WITNESS domestic violence suffer the same long-term effects as children who EXPERIENCE it directly.”
 
I did not know that twenty years ago.
 
If I knew then what I know now…

I'm heard people say, "He's not a good husband, but he's a good dad."

No.

A good dad is also a good husband.
 
Domestic violence is so much more than broken bones and bruises.
 
If a man puts his hands on his wife, the children will be affected.
 
If a man threatens his wife, the children will be affected.
 
If a man spews hate-filled words at his wife, the children will be affected.
 
If a man uses the Word of God as a weapon against his wife, the children will be affected.
 
If a man rapes his wife and treats her like a prostitute, the children will be affected.
 
If a man withholds finances from his wife and denies that her basic needs be met, the children will be affected.
 
If a man denies his wife and kids access to medical care, the children will be affected.
 
If a man sabotages every holiday or special occasion, the children will be affected.
 
If a man puts his fist through the wall or kicks down a door, the children will be affected.
 
I could go on, but I am certain you get the picture.
 
A man can do severe physiological damage to his children without ever laying a hand on them.
 
My heart is breaking for mamas and children today.
 
You may not see a way out, but there are so many who are finding safety and hope.
 
Ladies, please join us at Held and Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse.
 
In this group, I share hundreds of resources to help you on your healing journey.

You are not alone. 




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  1. This hits so close to home.

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